Now on MSNBC.com: Dr. Robi Ludwig's essay and Today Show appearance (with a Parents.com editor) on the prevalence and benefits of "mommy crushes." Dr. Ludwig's conclusion: "So the next time you find yourself having a secret crush, just enjoy it! All it really means is that you're still alive and remember what it's like to feel like an attractive woman. Then go and use that extra zest for life to enjoy your fabulous husband and wonderful kids. Happy fantasizing!"
Yes, thank God we're still alive and haven't forgotten those long-ago glory days of attractive-womanhood.
While we agree with the doctor that crushes are good things and there should be more of them, we were left with a few questions:
1. Do people really feel guilty or like they're cheating on their spouse because they have a crush on, say, Clive Owen or Angelina Jolie? Because that's messed up.
2. Is a crush on a co-worker (#2 on the list of men the 20,000 polled women had crushes on) or a partner's close friend or -- yikes! -- family member (#3) really the same as a crush on a Hollywood heartthrob (#1)? We sort of don't think so.
3. Shouldn't the guests on the show have been forced to name their secret crushes on the air? It seemed like a cop-out the way they got all coy when the tables were turned.
We're not like that. Our list is way too long to fit in this text box, but here are our top three this week: our model-esque pizza delivery guy, Tina Fey and Prince.
Who do you have a crush on?
Reader Comments ( Page 1 of 1)
1. Folks have had crushes on Hollywood celebrities since there has BEEN a Hollywood...none of this is new..
As to a crush on a relative, it is harmless as long as it is not acted on.
And no one should be FORCED to say whom they have a crush on. Although, really, Ada, Prince? The pizza delivery guy?
David S. at 6:33PM on Oct 16th 2007
2. "As to a crush on a relative, it is harmless as long as it is not acted on."
It's harmless even if it is acted on, even if it's your father or mother, son or daughter, as long as they want the sexual encounter. If they don't, they can simply say "No, don't want to sleep with you!" and you just go and find someone else to sleep with and have sex with.
The only reason that incest was made 'taboo' was because people thought that abnormal babies came from it. We now know that is NOT the case at all, so incest is fine to me. If someone else doesn't like the fact that I am sleeping with my first cousin, parent, daughter, whoever..... they can go to Sheol, because I don't care about their judgements.
Christopher Kidwell at 11:50PM on Oct 16th 2007
3. Christopher Kidwell you are one sick motherfucker who obviously needs therapy. I don't even think therapy would do you any good. Why don't people like you just drop dead.
Chuck at 1:15AM on Oct 17th 2007
4. I have a crush on my doctor. Oh, those blue eyes!
puck at 4:00AM on Oct 17th 2007
5. Chris, I hope you're not acting on any crushes you may have with any of your relatives.
Steve at 6:16AM on Oct 17th 2007
6. Wow, well that's not how I expected this blog to go. I mean that is really disturbing. I can't believe anyone would have a crush on Prince.
David at 7:26AM on Oct 17th 2007
7. I'm glad Dr. Robi Ludwig says it's ok to have a crush on someone. Now I don't have to feel guilty about my crush on her. I haven't felt this way about a TV psychologist since they cancelled Dr. Ruth's show ;-)
Gary at 8:59AM on Oct 17th 2007
8. Someone please help me. I told him no but he wouldn't stop.
Christopher Kidwell's Sister at 10:09AM on Oct 17th 2007
9. "Crushes" may be considered harmless, but I have seen many marriages destroyed when a "crush" on a co-worker, neighbor, or professional person turns into action. Just looking at someone attractive and drooling is fine...it shows we're human with healthy hormones. It gets into a problem when the brief drool becomes a persistent sexual fantasy or daydreaming obsession...because that is the first step to adultery, broken marriages, incredible pain and broken hearts. People...concentrate on your spouse and be into him or her. Sure...enjoy a skin shot in the movies or whatever, and appreciate God's creation of the opposite gender...but don't let that become a persistent fantasy. Too many of these are acted upon, and only misery results most of the time.
Father John at 10:31AM on Oct 17th 2007
10. Hmm...I had crushes on Donny Osmond, Michael Landon, Henry Winkler, Erik Estrada, Vincent Irizarry [which still stands...I have had the opportunity to meet him a few times and his kindness toward me only solidifies his crush-worthyness]...my sisters had crushes on Luke Perry and Don Johnson, respectively...and my parents [my mother loved Hopalong Cassidy and Perry Como; my father never missed a television show that featured Meredith Baxter and/or Veronica Hamel, for instance] had their own "crushes"...of course these were never "acted upon".
And now that I think of it, I am probably still shorter than Henry Winkler...{{sigh}}...
SterileCheryl at 12:04PM on Oct 17th 2007
11. Actually,
As proven by close-knit communities like the Amish and the polygamist FLDS sect, the repeated practice of incest has led to all kinds of problems.
Including, but not limited to:
homozygosity
downs syndrome
polydactylism
cleidocranial dysostosis
fumarase deficiency
inbreeding depression
This is not a question of Science or Religion as there are both genetic and moralistic negative implications for incest.
Christopher Kidwell is dead wrong!
He's also a known pedophile and actively promotes sexual relations with children.
http://corporatesexoffenders.com/wiki/Christopher_Kidwell
Leave those kids alone! at 12:23PM on Oct 17th 2007
12. Ok, let me put this in a common sense way. This is one of the things that is silly about our society. Maybe I am just too extreme, but if you are going to invest your love in someone that way, why dont you just track um down and wed um? But no, that went in one ear and out the other. No one cares.
Michelle at 10:26PM on Oct 17th 2007
13. And dont let that youre already married stop you, you dreamed it girl, go do it. Pish posh.
Michelle at 10:28PM on Oct 17th 2007
14. I have had crushes on several men in my past since being married and probably will have a few more before I die. I think they are harmless as long as you don't fantasize about them or act on them. I personally am in a very honest, open relationship with my husband. I tell him what I am feeling, b/c he knows its just temporary and has nothing to do with my feelings for him. Then I give myself a mental slap anytime I find myself thinking things I shouldn't about that man and eventually I get over it. I never act on it! It only leads to heartache and destroys relationships! And the guy who says incest is not harmful, scientific research proves that incest is harmful for the child of that rape-like sexual encounter. Your beliefs are truly disgusting!
Bridgett at 4:12PM on Oct 18th 2007