We just read on Strollerderby that a new study by University of Virginia psychologists reports that teen sex may actually be a good thing. The findings, per ScienceDaily: Teens who have sex at an early age may be less inclined to exhibit delinquent behavior in early adulthood than their peers who waited until they were older to have sex. The study also suggests that early sex may play a role in helping these teens develop better social relationships in early adulthood.
Ha-HA! The Strollerderby blogger says she feels her "entire adolescence has been vindicated," and so do we.
It also rings true to us on an anecdotal level. Most of the people we knew who were a little loose in high school figured sex dynamics out early; by the time they were out of college, they were ready for serious relationships. The ones who dutifully waited until they were of-age to start dating and considering sex wound up spending the post-college decade trying to make up for lost time.
Reader Comments ( Page 5 of 6)
61. Tony, if I am a slut so be it. I have a husband to go home to every night who loves and respects me. You are obviously lonely. It just shows you are uneducated. If you had any real opinion you would not have to call me a slut. And, if I were to wear fishnets and a mini skirt, it is MY RIGHT. It does not make me a slut. And trust me, I don't need you to boost my self esteem. I don't need you for anything.
D. at 4:29PM on Nov 16th 2007
62. Tony
Lord, I had no idea you were a professional ass talker. You should take that show on the road. You are right 2500 is much better then my football team – smile. That is about a woman a day for 7 years . . . wow impressive. The PTSD might explain some of this. Are you searching for peace of mind in a piece of ass?
I have got to tell you my husband of years and his hunting buddies are here with their wives laughing their asses off. Yesterday was opening day so they are all hanging up their recent catches (deer not a piece of ass). Yes the real kind of men who fight wars, hunt, spend time with there kids, and respect all women. Not just those who did not have sex in high school (and it was not the football team, it was one man, not that it matters).
Tony talk about STD’s and then say you been with 2500 women . . . you talk about STD’s and then say it is ok for guys to have sex and not women. Newsflash, men get STD’s too as I am sure you know after 2500 women. And anyone who sleeps with that many people old or young, there is something wrong.
Look forward to hearing from you talking ass – smile
PS the guys and their wives say thanks for the entertainment.
Deb at 4:38PM on Nov 16th 2007
63. Does your hubby know you were a pincushion? If not, tell him, and see how his opinion of you miraculously changes overnight.
tonytwoguns at 4:38PM on Nov 16th 2007
64. Tony . . . I am too young to know who Wilt Chamberlin is . . . some sport right?
Deb at 4:45PM on Nov 16th 2007
65. Tony my husband knows everything about me..hmmm I guess it is because I know that honesty is very important in a marriage. Learned that early in life-comes from my whore-ish ways. And your PTSD does explain a lot..especially given the fact that I used to counsel people with PTSD when I was in the Army. So, I will let it slide because you obviously do not know any better. I must agree with Deb, this is quite entertaining. Just because you have had sex with 2500 women as you claim does not make you a man. In fact it is quite laughable that you call me a slut. See, it is you who needs a boost of self esteem.
D. at 4:48PM on Nov 16th 2007
66. Because your hubby made the bad decision to marry a matress-back like you, and because he hunts, don't mean shit to me. I just got back from a 3 day expedition into some of the roughest mountains on earth (no vehicles aloowed, it's a wilderness).
I hunt, fish, shoot, hike and fuc*, is that "manly" enough for your little sissy boy hubby? (He's probably getting some guy ass on the side D, be careful).
Far as STD's with the 2500 women, yep, I caught the clap twice, cured it quick with the miracle of modern science called Trobicin. And, many of my service buds slept with a LOT more broads than I ever did, so I guess there was something wrong with all of us.
The PTSD is from seeing a man torn apart right in front of me. Luckily he died quickly. A kid, my age at the time (18), part is also from being in an aircraft accident, and another part is from being nearly killed by communists. Hope that's "manly" enough for you, and if it ain't, tough titties.
(And oh yeah, that expedition? My son was with me. And today I took my two little girls to school and tonight we'll watch a movie together)
tonytwoguns at 4:49PM on Nov 16th 2007
67. Wilt Chamberlain was the NBA star that first scored 100 points in a game and claimed to have bedded 20,000 women.
tonytwoguns at 4:58PM on Nov 16th 2007
68. Alright Tony I forgive you for your stupidity because you had a hard life, and yes you defiantly have something wrong with you. You are arguing on line with woman who really aren’t anything near what you claim. But really I don’t care what you claim. Although I’m really not sorry for making fun of you. I have real stuff to do now like go lay on my back and get some from a real man . . . just joking Tony. Really you need to lighten up and get some kind of prescription. You just don’t sound happy. Good luck to you. Unfortunately you sound a little tough, but they are all still laughing and now shaking their heads. Have fun in the rough terrain!
PS Just because I am funny does not mean I am fat. I am sexy and funny how else would I have gotten all of those men to sleep with me.
Good luck on you next 2500 and thanks for the laughs.
Good Luck D don’t let this unhappy person bother you, just be glad your not him.
Bye yall
Deb at 4:59PM on Nov 16th 2007
69. Hey, nothing personal Deb, that's just the way I am, unfortunately. The meds just keep me from going completely off the deep end, and I really DO love women, though I know you will find that hard to believe. Save some venison for me.
tonytwoguns at 5:02PM on Nov 16th 2007
70. I've been saying this same thing for years. People keep on saying that having sex 'too early' damages children and teenagers.
It does not. The only thing it teaches them is that they are sexually attractive at an early age. It doesn't teach them that they are 'worthless', 'damaged', etc. - that comes from what their parents tell them.
We would be better off if we started putting females on birth control at about the age of 7 and encouraging them from earlier than that to be sexually active with other people: younger, older, or same age as them, and teaching them what is acceptable to tell someone and what isn't. I.E. it isn't okay to tell someone they are just a slut to feed cock, or something similar to that.
Christopher at 4:45AM on Nov 17th 2007
71. You have got to be kidding!! Is this article truly suggesting that the path to a fulfilling adult relationship is to start having sex as a child? Based on what I know of my high school sexually active list, those that did were no more or less successful in their adult relationships than those who did not. If this is actually true, then the dutiful parent, wanting nothing but success for their child, should hook them up with some hot lovin' prior to graduation. Just goes to show, brains are not a prerequiste to "doing a study" and getting someone to publish it.
Sara at 5:45PM on Nov 17th 2007
72. hey if you talk to your kids and teach them the safe way you wont end up with teen moms and dads brith control and condums help in like a million diffrent ways but god talk to your kids and if they think their ready buy a box of condums for them and so them how to use them right just talk to them i know it helps if my parents whould have talked to me and told me the consiquenses for those actions i whouldnt have been a 16yr old mom dont tell them not to case they will any way so exsplane it to them
dm85 at 12:03AM on Nov 19th 2007
73. In looking at age of consent by state in the US I notice 32 states have age of consent of 16 and 7 have ages of consent of 17. the rest are 18. this has changed a little. When I was young, the age of consent in Oklahoma was 14.
I get the impression that about 2/3 of you really don't like sex very much or at all and have no respect for people of any age who enjoy consensual sex without them first being subjected to and passing your judgment.
It seems to enrage a lot of you if anyone is, to be frank having or had a good time, and you didn't. It may not be, but it smells a lot like jealousy.
You insist that someone had to have been hurt.
You call people who disagree with you idiots and morons and worse. About 2/3 of these posts are really hateful, seems to me.
I've lived a pretty long time and when single enjoyed myself. At the time there was no proscription against that for male or female adults.
I've been spoken for for the past 21 years and wouldn't have it any other way, but I haven't suddenly wrapped myself in some new moral hypocrisy because of it.
If it was ok for me to do it's still ok if people want to do the same thing.
Although I know exactly which ones of you would condemn me for my moral inferiority, I guarantee you I have never in my life called ANY woman of any age a whore or a slut or a skank or a pig or a c-word or engaged in any other such sexual derogation of women and I never will.
There's a real simple reason why not. It would make me feel like a piece of crap if I did.
I have no beef with women. I owe them some of the best times of my existence.
If we agreed to share a bit of our lives I'm the better for it and tried to conduct myself in a way that they all would be too.
It wasn't really very hard to do among ordinary reasonable consenting adults who gave a damn about other people.
At one time, the world was that way, but no more. It seems like people isolate more and snipe more since 1980 or so. That's probably mostly about HIV.
Some of you come off as self-righteous, petty and downright misanthropic.
I guess that's the way people are supposed to be these days. I'm glad I picked a different couple of decades to be young. I'd hate coming up in this country the way it is now.
Clif Kuplen at 3:06AM on Nov 18th 2007
74. I've never been in a relationship nor have I ever come close to having sex, and I'm honestly happy for it. But I've also been educated in safe sex, abstinence, STDs, HIV/AIDS, and the like. I'm not stupid; I know what I should do if I get sexual with someone else. Abstinence-only education teaches ignorance on all fronts, from how to have sex to what sex could do to your psychological and physical make-up. Teenagers should learn both abstinence and safe sex, and should be counselled on what could happen to them when they do become sexual, as a teenager and as an adult.
In this world, being a virgin until marriage is becoming outdated. Parents can teach their children what they want, but they need to talk to their children about the mechanics of sex and why they believe teenagers should/shouldn't have sex. My parents talked to me early in my high school years, and I've already found out from reading so much. My mom told me what she wanted me to do (no sex until marriage) but she knows she has no control over my decisions; she can only guide me.
Don't be so restricted or closeminded in an increasingly open world. Give your son/daughter a choice. Talk to them. That's really the least you can do.
Justine Y. at 1:48AM on Nov 19th 2007
75. Being 17 years old, I can see how this might be true in some situations, but not in others. One of my friends has been with 3 guys, and is now 18. By now, she's figured out the whole relationship thing and has been with her current boyfriend for a long time, and they will most likely end up married. Another of my friends has started out on the same route but has ended up at a very different destination. She now thinks she has to have sex with every guy she dates. Having sex early can give you a very clear view of relationships.... or a VERY warped one.
Mell at 4:27PM on Nov 18th 2007